Supporting Family and Fibromyalgia

Supporting Family and Fibromyalgia supporting family Supporting Family and Fibromyalgia hospital stayIn May I was at a conference for a small group of international coaches in a beach town in Connecticut.  I stayed at a friend’s home, in a really comfy bed, ate great seafood, and thoroughly enjoyed the time I was away!

On the Uber ride home from the airport I got a call from my mom: my dad had collapsed, hit his head, and was in the hospital. At first, it didn’t look to be as grim as it turned out, so I was able to spend the first night back in my own house.

The next night, as my father’s situation became worse, I wound up spending the night on the floor of his room in the ICU.  I didn’t get much sleep; he needed constant attention to keep from hurting himself, and the nurses just couldn’t keep up. Supporting family is apart of life, so I stepped up for my dad and my mom during this difficult time.

His situation got worse, to the point that he became under the care of hospice in a nursing home.  I am very shocked at this turn of events, but in another way, I am not – I went through this nearly-same scenario eight years ago with my father-in-law.

I was a bit concerned that with the lack of sleep, stress, and all the hospital food I’ve been eating lately, that the fibro symptoms would start up again – they have not, I’m very happy to report!  I’ve been sporadic with my supplements, but I have been able to sneak in a few martial arts classes and qualified for my green belt while all this has been going on! (Two more belts to Black!)

There is no way I could have supported my family when I had fibromyalgia. I was in bed all the time. My flares were even more severe when I tried to do anything other than be in bed. I am fortunate to now be able to help my family. Even though this is not easy or comfortable, I know it’s a part of the circle of life and I am glad I am able to be there for my parents during this difficult time.

Long story short, I am still working the best I can while this situation is ongoing.  Frankly, I feel blessed to be doing The Fibro Lady work, and it is a welcome distraction. If you feel the need to reach out to me, I may be a long time in answering an email, but I may answer it immediately – it just depends on what’s going on.

Thank you for your prayers, well wishes, and understanding through this difficult time!  You are very much appreciated!

I’d love to hear from you on how you cope with challenging situations, just hit reply and let me know.  I do read all of my emails!

Love,

Leah

P.S.

Also, The Fibro Lady Store is still open and running, as it is not run by me alone, so feel free to place your orders and know they will be sent out in a timely manner.  Also, if you are interested in learning more about the Take Your Health Back Group Coaching program – the program where I hold your hand through the recovery process and where I see people have the most dramatic results – simply reply to this email.

Top Gifts for People with Fibromyalgia

Gifts for Fibromyalgia  Top Gifts for People with Fibromyalgia Dollarphotoclub 95051120Widespread body pain, sensitivities to nearly everything, fatigue and sleep disturbances…these are the common symptoms of fibromyalgia. It can be difficult to determine what would be an appropriate gift. I remember very vividly what it was like to have Fibromyalgia. Sometimes it hurt too badly just to lay down in bed. Here are some great fibromyalgia gifts that will give joy and comfort for years to come! Happy Heartfelt Holidays!

Super-Soft Microfiber Hooded Robe When you are too tired to get dressed and everything hurts this robe is like a gentle hug. The super soft microfibers will not irritate or itch. It keeps you warm without being heavy. Ahh! That’s better.

 Detox Cleanse Kit When New Year’s Day rolls around your recipient is going to be so happy to have this! Get rid of the bloat and fatigue from all of the holidays and start off fresh in the New Year. The Healing Cleanse 30 Day Detox Kit is a fast, simple and easy way to jumpstart healing and make it a great year (Here’s a coupon code for 10% off plus free shipping HOLIDAY17). If you would like even more information, download my free ebook Lose Up to 15 Pounds in 30 Days without Exercising, Starving or Stressing.

Silk Pillow Cases An affordable luxury. Very smooth and naturally cool or warm as you need. They also diminish wrinkles on the face from sleeping and eliminate bed hair.

Warm, Soothing Broth Forget sending the candy and cookies that will cause all kinds of inflammation and pain. Broth is soothing, healing, and the perfect note for cold winter days. Add coconut oil or ghee for good fats, hydrolyzed collagen powder for super-absorbable protein, and unrefined sea salt for flavor. Add this stainless-steel travel mug, it’s my favorite for on-the-go!

Wool Blanket (to go under the bottom bed sheet) Forget a scratchy wool blanket like your grandmother had! These blankets are very soft, but they go UNDER your bottom bed sheet. I used to have a heated mattress pad or an electric blanket, but I became concerned about potential exposure to harmful EMFs. With a wool blanket under my bottom sheet, there is no electricity to worry about and the bed stays warm, cozy and breathable.

BONUS IDEA: I would be shot by my publisher if I did not mention my book, which takes people on a step-by-step path for complete recovery from fibromyalgia and its coexisting conditions. I have been recovered from fibromyalgia for nearly 10 years now, and I am on a mission to help others do the same. Freedom from Fibromyalgia: 7 Steps to Complete Recovery is available on Amazon or on my website www.TheFibroLady.com.

About the author: Natural healing expert and speaker Leah E. McCullough, affectionately known as The Fibro Lady, is the author of the critically-acclaimed books Freedom from Fibromyalgia: 7 Steps to Complete Recovery and Eat to Energize: Strategies and Recipes for Using the #1 Super Food for Energy. Receive the free eBook Lose Up to 15 Pounds in 30 Days without Exercising, Starving or Stressing at www.TheFibroLady.com . You can also connect with Leah on Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.

How can I be grateful when I am so sick?

I remember the last year that I was really sick (highly symptomatic of fibromyalgia and coexisting conditions). I did not want to go to my in-laws’ house for Thanksgiving.  I didn’t want to go anywhere for that matter, and I just stayed home all the time. It wasn’t just that one year; it was several years.Hard to be Thankful with Fibromyalgia  How can I be grateful when I am so sick? turkey 966496 640

Holidays were a particular hell – I had to be present at a certain time, I had to spend a couple hours with people I only saw once or twice a year, I felt like I had to explain why I looked just fine but couldn’t work or do anything meaningful with my life, plus wear nice clothes and eat different food.  Ugh!  Let me go back to bed!

On that last year I was trying to tell my husband I wasn’t going to go to his parents’ house for Thanksgiving.  My husband is a very sweet person, and he had put up with a lot with me being sick.  He gave me this look like “unless you have to go to the hospital, you better go, don’t do this to me.

Here in the US, some families take turns going around the table declaring what they are thankful for that year.  When every fiber of your being is in pain, sleep has been elusive for years, and fatigue is crushing, it takes a lot more imagination to find reasons to be grateful.

How can I be grateful when I am so sick?  Nothing seems good when looked through the lens of an intense illness.  The more you need something, the harder it is to get, right?

You know how it is when you get around somebody that is really complaining, and it might be totally legitimate, but it can really bring the mood down.  Then other people pipe in and start commiserating, and soon everyone is feeling really sour.  This is an example of the principle of Law of Attraction, “like attracts like.”  A negative thought attracts another negative thought like the fibers in a string of yarn until it becomes a rope.

Oppositely, when you focus on better feeling thoughts, you then start to attract more better feeling thoughts.  Thoughts lead to feelings, and who doesn’t want to have good feelings?!

However, the truth of the matter is, you cannot go directly from being down and depressed to grateful and joyful.  Or as Abraham-Hicks point out, “You just can’t get there from here.”  And why would you want to anyway, what does it matter?  What’s so important about gratitude?  Why do we even have a holiday about this?

The fastest and most effective way to flip the switch on any kind of bad mood is to start counting your blessings, i.e., experiencing gratitude. When a person is down in the dumps, it takes some forethought to figure out what to be grateful for, but I have a simple method I learned from Abraham-Hicks: go general.

If you think about the specifics of your situation, you may very well not find anything to be grateful for, it may be just too raw for you to find anything.  So to start (and I mean this is the start – not the end all, be all), start thinking about general things that are pleasant in your situation.  Then those thoughts and feelings will start to attract more and more thoughts about even more and more positive aspects, and a positive spiral will start.  When you get stuck, or a negative thought creeps in, and they will go back to a more general thought.

For example, I might be feeling pretty cruddy and just barely able to make it to the holiday dinner.  How can I lift my mood or even begin to feel like I have gratitude?  I start with something that is easy to be grateful for such as a pet.  I think I am so grateful for my dog, she is such a comfort to me.  Then I wait for a second or two for another positive thought.  I’m glad I get to cuddle with my dog.  As I am waiting for another positive thought, a negative one may creep in: but she needs a bath.  Go back to general: I am so grateful that we have plenty of fresh, clean water.  My dog loves baths, it’s so cute!

As you are thinking about your pet (or something else that is easy to think about), you may very well find your mood improves some.  Then stay in that good mood for as long as you can and just focus on good feeling thoughts.  When the negative thoughts creep in, just blow them off and don’t focus on them.How can I be grateful when I am so sick? Happy Thanksgiving

At this point you may have some ideas about how going to a holiday dinner might be bearable.  Such as, hmm, I can wear something more comfortable, that way I may not tire out so quickly.  Also, I can bring a cushion with me, that way the chair won’t hurt.  I really appreciate how my mother-in-law hosts our family’s get together, she really cares about everyone being comfortable and happy.

You have to build up to the good feelings.  Finding general things to be grateful for attracts more thoughts about what to be grateful for, for your specific situation.

So then what does gratitude do besides make you feel good?  First, isn’t that great all on its own – any way to feel better, especially in the midst of soul-sucking pain, isn’t that enough all on its own?!   In a very metaphysical way, gratitude attracts happiness and blessings the way a tuning fork, once struck, will turn on another tuning fork of the same note, that’s in its vicinity.   Like attracts like.

About a month before that last Thanksgiving where I was so sick, I had started to meditate on “optimal health” which was the most audacious wish I could imagine.  Within about two months I attracted the thought that I wanted to be happy no matter what the situation.  I wasn’t one hundred percent, but my way of being changed so much so, that my husband thought my physical situation was improving.  It hadn’t at that point, but that’s how big a difference changing my outlook made.

Within a year every single aspect of my life changed for the better: I recovered from fibromyalgia and the coexisting conditions I had, I lost over 70 pounds, I was able to get off all prescription drugs, and the miracle of miracles, I became pregnant (at 41 years old!).  I know deep in my soul, that changing my outlook started the ball rolling, and attracted the people and things I needed to make the physical changes.  I attracted happiness and blessings!

So what about you?  What’s an easy subject for you think about?  Do you love the crispness of the air this time of year?  Do you love seeing how much the children have grown when everyone gathers for the holiday?

Also, what strategies have you come up with that help you get through the holidays with health and peace?  Join the Freedom from Fibromyalgia: Fibro Natural Recovery Support group page (you have to request to join – there are all kinds of free resources in the Files section).  I can’t wait to see you then!

Love, Leah

Happy Mother’s Day

Mothers do their best Mother Happy Mother's Day mothersHappy Mother’s Day (Even If You Have Mixed Feelings About It)

Like a lot of people, I have mixed emotions about Mother’s Day. First, I don’t have a warm and fuzzy relationship with my mother or any of my now-deceased grandmothers. My mother was never my “soft, safe place to land.” Also, I spent most of my adult life desperately wishing to be a mother, and it nearly didn’t happen. (After we had completely given up, after eight years of marriage and at the age of forty-one, I became pregnant. Before that, I had been referred to as “barren” which really stung.)

I LOVE being a mother and not only is it more than I dreamed it could be, it is the hardest thing I’ve ever done, as I am sure all parents feel. Not only do I get to be the love of someone’s life, if even for a short time, but I felt like I got my parents back too. I had walked a mile in their shoes and had some insights into what they were going through. I also enjoy them through my son who loves spending time with them.

As  a Mother or Father, We Do the Best We Can

I was having a cuddly little talk with my seven-year-old son today about parents. I said that everyone at any given point in time is doing the best they know how. I said, so that now when I look back and what I thought were shortcomings by the people in charge of taking care me, now I realize how much they were actually struggling.

Wow! What an insight! That insight makes it not only easier to forgive my parents, but also myself, and everyone else for that matter.

I have been told by people that the root emotion behind fibromyalgia is unforgiveness. I don’t know if I believe that, or even if root emotions contribute to disease at all. But what I do know is forgiveness, and particularly self-forgiveness is the doorway to inner peace. And peace helps health immeasurably.


If you read popular writing about health and well-being, it is said that stress is the number one contributor to ill health. Do you know what stress is? It is just our outlook on what is happening to and around us. We can change our thoughts, change our outlook and then, have less stress, and more peace.

So my wish for Mother’s Day is for everyone, everywhere, to find the peace in your heart you so richly deserve.

With Love and Joy!

Leah

 

You’re Not Going to Believe the Summer I Had

I was blind-sided by summer this year!

This year’s circumstances came as quite a surprise.  As a result of my recovery from fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, depression, etc., I became pregnant with my miracle baby.  Now my “baby” is a seven-year-old little boy made of snakes and snails and puppy dog tails.

Unlike during the school year, my little boy woke up every day around 6 am ready to go-go-go!  He went all day straight until bedtime.  And he seemed to need my constant attention.  I never knew If I had fibromyalgia I wouldn't be learning Karate this Summer!  summer You’re Not Going to Believe the Summer I Had Karate with my sonJumping with my Son this summer summer You’re Not Going to Believe the Summer I Had Jumping with my Sonsomeone else could get so bored that it was painful to me.  (Here we are bouncing on the new trampoline!)  In all honesty, we had a difficult time finding our groove during the first half of summer.

I decided to “give up” on getting much done, and I focused on enjoying the time with my son.  Even though I had cut way back on work, I was able to help my private coaching clients have major breakthroughs with their health.  (See the invitation below for a FREE initial consultation.)

We went on vacation to northern Ohio to The Rock and Roll Hall of Fame in Cleveland, swam in Lake Erie and toured Put-In-Bay.  We got a season pass to a local amusement park and rode roller coasters every week.  We also continued our martial arts training (I feel like such a bad-ass now!).  All in all, we ended up having a marvelous summer!

If you would like to take your life back from the pain, fatigue and brain fog, why not join me for a FREE consultation?

During this special session we’ll work together to:

  • Create a crystal clear vision for the ideal life you’d be living with vibrant and vivacious health
  • We’ll uncover hidden challenges that may be sabotaging your efforts and keeping you sickRoller Coasters with my Son this Summer!  summer You’re Not Going to Believe the Summer I Had Roller Coasters with my Son
  • You’ll leave the session re-energized, inspired and ready to finally take control of your health once and for all

These sessions are for a limited time and spaces are limited.  To connect with a time that works for you go to www.TheFibroLadyCalendar.com. Register today and start living your new life!

Yours in joy and health,

Leah