Mix Feelings about Mother’s Day

If You Have Mixed Feelings About Mother’s Day, You Are Not Alone

Mothers Day mothers day Mix Feelings about Mother's Day mothers day 1372456 640Mother’s Day has always been difficult because it poignantly reminds me of what I don’t/didn’t have.  My relationship with my parents has been strained in a number of ways and then I spent most of my life wishing to be a mother and either not able to get pregnant, or in a situation where I didn’t feel safe getting pregnant.

Right before I started to recover from fibromyalgia, I started a meditation/visualization/prayer practice that changed my life dramatically.  Not only did it open my mind to the people and things I needed to recover, but drastically changed my perspective about everything, including my “issues” with my parents.

Paraphrasing Jack Canfield, co-author of Chicken Soup for the Soul, everyone, at any given point in time, is doing the best they know how.  Now when I look back and what I thought were short-comings by the people in charge of taking care me, now I realize how much they were actually really struggling.

Wow!  What an insight!  This insight, combined with the inner peace I find through meditation, has drastically changed my relationships with my parents.  They didn’t change so much, but I did, and that affected how we showed up for each other.

For me, one of the best parts about being a mother, is that now that I have “walked a mile in their shoes,” I now have some insights about what they were going through.  Not only do I get to be the love of someone’s life, if even for a short time, but I felt like I got my parents back too.

I have been told by people that the root emotion behind fibromyalgia is unforgiveness.  I don’t know if I believe that, or even if root emotions contribute to disease at all.  But what I do know is forgiveness, and particularly self-forgiveness, is the doorway to inner peace.  And inner peace helps health immeasurably.

If you read popular writing about health and well-being, it is said that stress is the number one contributor to ill health.  Do you know what stress is?  It is just our outlook on what is happening to and around us.  We can change our thoughts, change our outlook and then, have less stress, and more peace.

So my wish for Mother’s Day is for everyone, everywhere, to find the peace in your heart you so richly deserve.

With Love and Joy!  Leah

P.S.  As a special Mother’s Day present, I am offering the MP3 of my guided meditation Optimal Health for only $1 (a $19.97 value) for 48 hours.  This is the guided meditation I used before I started to recover, to shift my awareness to the people and things that helped me recover.  Go here and get some peace of mind!

Just Breath

Belly Breathing  Just Breath breathe e1554854641805My #1 go-to remedy for anything and everything is to first take a deep breath.  There is something very centering about doing this intentional, conscious act.  I also learned about taking several deep breaths in a row and that really got me centered, and started to genuinely relax my body.

The second tip on the “5 Simple, Unique and Fast Ways to Help Fibro Pain NOW Where Ever You Are” Infographic is Take Deep Breaths.  It is fairly common for people to take 3 deep breaths when they are stressed out to help calm them down.  Taking 10 deep breaths in a row helps calm and center you on an even deeper level (just don’t do this in the bathtub!).  This practice helps oxygenate the body, helps clear the mind, and can help ease some pain – even fibro pain.  Here is a link to Belly Breathing Instructions with all the details.

I would love to know your results of doing this tip.  Feel free to reach out at leah@thefibrolady.com.

Yours in joy and health,

Leah

Freedom From Fibromyalgia = Freedom from Braces

I’m so excited to share with you this little victory I realized recently!  My digital marketing consultant, Teri, was over and she was on her way to doing an event for an orthopedic bracing company. At the event, they were collected gently used durable medical equipment for Matthew 25 Ministries.

I said I have a bunch of braces (from the bad old days!) I want to donate. After I had gathered everything, Teri had me lay all these braces and wraps out on the table to take a picture – she said, “This is amazing! You need to share this with your community!”  So here’s the picture of all kinds of braces and wraps I haven’t needed in ten years – for nearly every joint!Freedom from Braces  Freedom From Fibromyalgia = Freedom from Braces no more braces

Since I published my book five years ago, I have heard from so many people who now don’t need their canes and even walkers.  Many are even going on to do long walks, and even enter 5Ks! (I never needed a cane, but I did have to use the motorized wheelchair at the grocery store. ) Fortunately, now, I can go to the grocery store and put away the groceries and cook a simple dinner, all in about a 2 hour time period, without being completely wiped out!

Would you be interested in taking your life back?  Would you like some help?  I see the best results from the direct support coaching offers.  If you are interested in working with me in my year-long coaching program, I still have a few spots left.

If you’re not recovered from fibromyalgia yet, I’d love to be the one who gets you there! 

Please just reply here if you are ready for a life transformation!

Love,

Leah

Where’s Leah?  In Ohio and All over!

North Carolina Integrated Medicine  Where’s Leah?  In Ohio and All over! IMG 2181Since completing the telesummit, I have been traveling quite a bit. Here is a quick summary of what’s been happening!

A Keynote Speaker at a Medical Conference

This was one of the high-points of my career!  I was one of the keynote speakers at the Southeast Regional Integrative Medical Conference 2016.  It was held March 4-5, 2016 in Winston-Salem, North Carolina, USA.

I have officially gone from doctors telling me “it’s all in your head” to “thank you for your presentation” !!  I presented to them the methods I used to recover from fibromyalgia and its coexisting conditions, how they can implement it with their patients, and the stories about how others have recovered using this method too.  

Honestly, I was a bit nervous about how my talk would be received, but these medical professionals were so gracious and open to learning new information.  I actually went to the other classes for my own education.  There was fantastic information there.

I unveiled my brand new Freedom from Fibromyalgia Professional Certification Course.  Soon we will have listings of medical professionals all over that can partner with the members of our community.

In OHIO!

Since I live in Ohio, you would think I speak there a lot.  I actually present all over the country, but in April I have an unprecedented three speaking appearances in Ohio.  

The first one was near Cincinnati, The Younique Wellness Expo on Saturday, April 2.  My topic was 3D Healing.

The next one I did was near Lima, and it’s the Allen County Weston A. Price Foundation Chapter.  It was on Monday, April 11.  I love presenting to WAPF chapters!

The third one is a bit different for me – I will be doing a marketing talk to aspiring authors at The Dayton Book Expo on Saturday, April 30th, (time to be announced).  I will be part of a panel of authors that have self-published their books.  The admission is free and will be held at Sinclair Community College in Dayton.

Free Support

I am part of two fibromyalgia support groups that meet in Ohio.  I attend every other month to the Cincinnati or Dayton Fibro Fighters.  If you are interested check it out on http://www.meetup.com/Cincinnati-Fibro-Fighters/ or http://www.meetup.com/cincinnati-Dayton-Fibro-Fighters/ .

If you are not able to make it to our in-person support groups I invite you to join our secret FaceBook Group, The Hope Army.  To join send an email to leah@thefibrolady.com, subject The Hope Army, and include the email address you use to log into FaceBook.  An invitation link will be sent to you.  Once you join, please introduce yourself to the group and let us welcome you!

Big Announcement – Everywhere!

On the heels of The Healing Fibromyalgia – Chronic Fatigue – ME World TeleSummit I am pleased to announce the start of a group class called the 3D Fibro Healing TeleClass.  

The first class is FREE and we will have 5 calls total, consisting of information and Q&A time.  This is a fantastic opportunity to go through the Freedom from Fibromyalgia 7 Steps to Complete Recovery with me holding your hand all along the way.

We will have the first class on Thursday, April 21st at 7:00 p.m. Eastern Time (4:00 p.m. Pacific) and then the other classes will go over a period of 7 weeks.  This gives you the opportunity to see your results over time and to ASK, ASK, ASK questions about your specific situation.  Everyone will learn from each other!

To receive notifications about this exciting new class, go to www.3DFibro.com/signup and sign up with your name and email address. As a thank you for signing up, you will receive my NEW special report “Natural Ways to Reduce and Even Eliminate Fibromyalgia Pain.”  

If you know of or have a group that would like an inspirational, informative and engaging speaker, feel free to contact me at Leah@TheFibroLady.com.

Well, that’s about it for now!  Keep up to date on all my happenings on the Where’s Leah tab on my website and stay in touch with me on FaceBook, Twitter, and, YouTube.

Yours in joy and health,

Leah

The Fibro Lady

Are You Missing the Celebration… Again?

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If you have fibromyalgia or chronic fatigue, this can be the most frustrating time of the year, instead of the most wonderful, like it should be.

I know. I have been there and I have the scars on my heart to prove it.  Because of my absence I have damaged relationships beyond repair.  Not being there also counts, but not for anything good, unfortunately.

How confusing are the symptoms of fibromyalgia to the one who suffers?  

How more confusing must it be for someone who only sees you a few times a year?  

This is a difficult article for me to write as I explore the repercussions of the period of time in my life I had to cancel my attendance to events, and usually at the last minute.  I actually just got to the point where I would not make any commitments rather than be a flake.  It was very isolating, which only added to my loneliness and depression.

One of my biggest regrets is that I missed out on getting to know my nieces and nephews when they were small.  When each one of them were born I really wanted a close relationship with them.  Now I am just a familiar stranger to them, and it really breaks my heart.  

What has this disease cost you in terms of relationships?  I was fortunate, my marriage survived, but a lot of peoples’ don’t fare as well.  Also, my relationship with my child is intact mainly because I had him after I recovered.  I know a lot of parents who are unable to be the kind of parents they want to be.

If you have to miss the celebration this season, I understand.  At the end of the day, you are dealing with an illness that is often invisible.  You have to take care of yourself first.  I feel for you, and I know that this too shall pass.

But please realize that relationships require attendance.  You have to be there to connect.  And isn’t connection what everyone is seeking?  To feel the warmth of love and friendship with the people we care about the most.  You have to be there to make the memories.

Now that I have recovered I have made new relationships and have deepened old ones.  I can’t turn back time, and like I state before, some relationships have been damaged beyond repair.  However, I am so grateful that I can now be there, I get to connect, and I get to make memories with the people I care about most.

What is your greatest wish?  How are you going to make it happen?  Do you have an example of anyone else achieving this dream?  

This has been difficult to write about, so I want to add a bright spot.  In the New Year we will be unveiling some free support resources for you to show you a path out of this darkness.  Be on the lookout for the announcement of The Fibromyalgia – Chronic Fatigue – ME World Telesummit that will be broadcast January 26th-28th, 2016.

We are very excited about this!  I will be interviewing experts all over the world that are helping people recover naturally from fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue and their coexisting conditions.  Real help, real hope, great information.

From the bottom of my heart, this holiday season, I wish for you the feelings of joy, health, understanding and peace.  

Leah

The Fibro Lady

Where’s Leah?

Where’s Leah?  All Over!

Anaheim, CA

 The 16th Annual Wise Traditions Conference, hosted by Weston Price in Anaheim, California was November 12-16th. I networking with other healers and educators while learning all about the cutting edge science behind natural healing.  Also, I will be enjoying fantastic food!  That is something I do not get to do a lot out in public so I’m glad I was able to attend.  Here’s a video of the action.

I added some posts on Twitter and Facebook

In The New Year

I already have several speaking engagements lined up for the New Year and I will announce those as they get closer.  If you know of or have a group that would like an inspirational, informative and engaging speaker, feel free to contact me at Leah@TheFibroLady.com.

 

A Keynote Speaker at a Medical Conference

This might be the most exciting thing I have done to date!  I am one of the keynote speakers at the Southeast Regional Integrative Medical Conference 2016.  It will be held March 4-5, 2016 in Winston-Salem, NC.  

What the most interesting part for me is that I have now gone from doctors not believing me to doctors paying me to hear how I recovered from fibromyalgia, and how they can help their patients recover too.  Isn’t it amazing how life works?!

 

Big Announcement – Everywhere!

And, as I mentioned in The Support article, I will be live everywhere coming January 26-28, 2016 for The Healing Fibromyalgia ~ Chronic Fatigue ~ ME World Telesummit. This is a FREE virtual event, meaning everyone that registers will have free access to listen to the interviews.  

I will be interviewing doctors and other experts in from all over the world to discuss how they are helping people heal from these supposedly incurable conditions.

This is the biggest project I have undertaken since starting to write my book and I am very excited about it.  We will be announcing more details as well as the speaker roster in the coming weeks.

 

Well, that’s about it for now!  Keep up to date on all my happenings on the Where’s Leah tab on my website and stay in touch with me on FaceBook, Twitter, and, YouTube.

Yours in joy and health,

Leah

The Fibro Lady

A Mission of Recovery #FibroFree

Share your Recovery Stories #FibroFree

Be Fibro Free  A Mission of Recovery #FibroFree Complete Recovery from FibromyalgiaIn case it is not obvious, I am on a personal mission to let people know that fibromyalgia does not have to be a life sentence.  People are recovering from it all the time, all over the world.  I want to highlight and celebrate what people are now able to do through pictures.  In social media, if you put the hashtag symbol, #, in front of a phrase, it will set it apart for search engines and groups.  To inspire and motivate others, I am putting up pictures of myself and others doing amazing things now that we are #fibrofree.

So far I have put up kind of mundane things like the putting the wash out on the line, but I have put up other pictures like being in a giant bouncy ball (it was so much fun!).  I could have NEVER done any of those things when I was sick!  Now I can do anything I want:  I have energy, strength and endurance.  I get up every day excited about life and I live it.  This is what I want for others to know:  this is possible for you too!

Run half marathon fibro free  A Mission of Recovery #FibroFree run a half marathonJoin the Fibromyalgia RECOVERY Awareness movement and post your pictures with the #fibrofree, even if you are still recovering, we want to celebrate with you!  Then we can meetup on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram, etc.  Also feel free to Like “The Fibro Lady” while you’re at it.  I can’t wait to see how you are living your life #fibrofree!

 

Yours in Joyful Health,

Leah

 

Fibro Flare Survival 101

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(excerpted from Freedom from Fibromyalgia: 7 Steps to Complete Recovery

by Leah E. McCullough ©2015)

1. Rest and cut out any obligations you can.

2. Cut out sugar, any artificial ingredients, and preservatives.

3. Drink plenty of liquids, especially broth.

4. Eat health-promoting food such as chicken soup, homemade stews with organ meats, and organic, pasture-raised eggs. Avoid high-carbohydrate, processed, and restaurant foods.

5. Take your supplements, especially zeolites and probiotics.

6. Take a detox bath: one cup of sea salt (like Hains) and one cup of baking soda.

7. Center yourself with meditation and prayer.

8. Be gentle with yourself!

9. Steer clear of negative people and situations. Avoid drama even in books and TV, such as the news.

10. Use this time to focus on getting better and you should soon find yourself feeling improved and clearer in the head.

Yours in Joyful Health,

Leah

 

I thought I liked Whole Foods but then I saw this….

Whole Foods is a Destination!  I thought I liked Whole Foods but then I saw this…. whole foods daytonWhen I found out about a year ago that a Whole Foods grocery store was being built close to my new hometown, I was ecstatic, to say the least.  Since I am a Natural Healing Expert, eating good quality food plays a major role in my continued excellent health.  Choosing a store such as Whole Foods is very important for me, so the closer the better!   At this point, I thought the only thing that could make me love Whole Foods any more is if they gave away free food, or so I thought.

I went to the grand opening day of the Whole Foods store in Dayton, Ohio.  I have been all over the country and this is the largest Whole Foods I have ever been in: it has a huge area of hot, prepared foods and two indoor and two outdoor seating areas, BUT what got me so over-the-top excited (I don’t know how to say this without sounding like I have a drinking problem)  THEY HAVE A BAR!  Yes!  In the store!

For a multitude of reasons, I do not go to bars.  A lot of men have no idea how awkward a woman can feel going out to eat alone, and to go to a bar alone is practically unthinkable.   Most of the places I can think of that have decent quality, prepared food that you can eat on-site, are really nice sit-down restaurants.  So for the closest grocery store to my house (long walking distance) to have healthy prepared food, seating areas, and a BAR, well now I can take myself out for a date any time I want 🙂

Talk about multi-tasking!  I can shop for groceries, eat a meal, walk home, take my little boy with me (or not), meet friends there, go alone, or even meet my husband there for dinner. Hmm, it is kind of hike, and my dog needs exercising, I wonder if they will have a doggy date night?

Natural Healing expert and speaker Leah E. McCullough, affectionately known as The Fibro Lady, is author of the groundbreaking book Freedom from Fibromyalgia: 7 Steps to Complete Recovery. Receive the free ebook Lose Up to 15 Pounds in 30 Days without Exercising, Starving or Stressing by signing up for her natural health newsletter at www.TheFibroLady.com.  She can be reached at  leah@TheFibroLady.com.  

How My Marriage Survived Fibromyalgia

 

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“In sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, in good times and in bad…”  The reason those phrases are part of the marriage vows is because those are some of the top reasons people break up.  So when people are experiencing sickness, lack of money, and are in bad times, how do they stay together?  How did my husband, Carl, and I stay together and still get along during the years of me being ill

If you are not aware of my story, I’ll tell it here briefly.  I started to feel the effects of fibromyalgia in my early twenties.  A year before I met my husband, I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia, which was over seven years after I started experiencing symptoms.  At that time I was able to work and carry on a fairly normal life, but I was in quite a bit of pain and sometimes the fatigue was overwhelming.

My husband and I had been engaged to be married for only a week when I was injured in an accident at work.  That was the start of me becoming disabled from working.  That was about fifteen years ago now and I have not worked at a “nine-to-five” job since.  For the first eight years it was because of necessity, fortunately now, it is by choice.

At the time, even before we were married, I actually had to resign from my job.  It was one of the worst days of my life.  I felt defeated.  Some “well-meaning” relatives, in an attempt to buck me up, I supposed, said hurtful things to me like, “Carl doesn’t want to marry a sick woman.”  How did they presume to know what Carl did or did not want?  Fortunately, Carl wanted me and the feeling was sincerely ret
urned.

I know that being ill breaks up marriages and relationships.  When I was sick I pretty much lost all my friends and it strained my relationships with my family.  Really the only person I had in the whole world was my husband.

I felt like a modern-day Job, from the Old Testament of The Bible.  In that story he lost everything, his children, money, health and all of his possessions.  The only things he had left were his wife, a few judgmental friends, and his faith.  Some theologians suggest that the reason he still had his wife was because she was there as a mirror to reflect and magnify his suffering.  I can identify with this because when I imagined myself through my husband’s eyes, it made me feel even more depressed.

I give my husband all due credit for keeping our marriage intact through the years of my illness.  He is a person of high integrity and very little ego.  He is a mellow sort who takes life as it comes, but even he would get frustrated at times and feel helpless.  He really is very agreeable and the nicest person I have ever had the pleasure to know.  He is consistent and nurturing.  Getting to know one human being on such a deep level has been one of the greatest pleasures of my life.

1. We are nice to each other – We really try to be as considerate as possible to the other.  We still say “please” and “thank you.”  We always kiss each other hello, goodbye and goodnight.  We say “I love you” every day.  This may not seem like an astounding secret, but I have seen many couples lose their spark due to this.

2. We are Cooperative – My husband and I strive to be cooperative with each other.  If one wants something done a particular way, the other tries to respect that.  We also support each other’s goals.  You will NEVER hear me say anything negative about my husband to anyone.  Period.  It is not a topic of discussion.  If I have an issue with him, I speak only to him about it and no one else.  I also strive to tell him as soon as possible, before it escalates into a big deal.  However, I will sing my husband’s praises to anyone who will listen.  In this way I minimize the negatives and maximize the positives of our relationship.

3. We take time for Intimacy –  is more than sex and it is an important part of a marriage.  When a person is sick, sex may not only seem like a hassle, but painful as well.  People may start to resent their partner.  This is poison for a marriage!  First, find a way to forgive yourself, then find a way to forgive your partner.  Make time for yourself and for each other.

If it has been a while since you have been intimate, take it slowly.  Start with holding hands or gentle hugs.  When there are times when you feel less bad than others, this is the time to try to initiate or accept intimacy.  Let your partner know that you want to have an intimate relationship with him/her, but you don’t know what you can and can’t do.  Let the partner know you will just have to go by how you feel.

There may be times when a person is in so much pain they can’t even hold hands.  Try to have a conversation by candle light together.  Do things to connect with each other.  Intimacy doesn’t have to include sex, just take the time to make the connection with your partner.

4. We respect our Commitment – For people who are married or in a long-term committed relationship, it is important to realize that illness not only affects you, it affects everyone who lives with you.  That thought may make you feel worse at first, but remember, you hitched your star to your partner’s wagon too.  You are in this together, come what may.  So when you share your burdens they become lighter.  When you share your happiness it becomes magnified.  Celebrate the smallest victories!

5. We love each other deeply –  I take that as a given if you are married.  Life can be so hard sometimes that the only thing left to cling to is the love.  Always, always, always turn to each other; there is strength in two together that is not present in two separately.

So there you have it:  our marriage survived fibromyalgia, because we were nice to each other, we cooperated, we kept intimacy at the forefront, and we stuck to our commitment to each other.  And all along the way we have truly loved and still truly love and appreciate each other.  When I recovered from fibromyalgia we had a great foundation to build the good times to come.  We know we can depend on each other forever, and that is a prize worth pursuing.

In the month of February we celebrate love, and it is my sincerest hope for you to have all the love you want in life!

Yours in joy and health,

Leah